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Divorce Coach and Retired Law Enforcement Officer Asks American Psychological Association to Recognize Parental Alienation

Below is a copy of my recent correspondence to the American Psychological Association, APA, urging them to recognize parental alienation from the perspective of a law enforcement officer and divorce coach at the request of many parents seeking support from professionals on the issue. I urge parents and other professionals to continue to write in recognition of the devastating issue.

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July 15, 2016

 

Dr. Susan McDaniel

President

American Psychological Association

750 First St. NE

Washington DC 20002-4242

Re: Recognition of Parental Alienation

Dear Dr. McDaniel;

My name is Catherine MacWillie, I am the CEO of Custody Calculations and a child custody and divorce coach. I have been dealing with family law for 32 years. 24 years as a law enforcement officer with the Los Angeles Police Department responding to radio calls dealing with divorce and custody issues. And a first responder to child abuse allegations and other related assignments. I devoted ten years of research to family law including cause and effect, impact and solutions that arise during these proceedings. In the process I identified that family law may be responsible for 25% of the crime in the United States, homicides, suicides, abductions, child abuse, domestic violence, violation of restraining orders, violation of court orders, stalking and more. To put just one of those numbers into perspective that is 3,500-4,000 homicides a year related to divorce and custody issues. My purpose in writing is an impassioned plea that the American Psychological Association recognize parental alienation.

At no other time in history has data collection, analysis and dissemination allowed for the improvement in human studies at this level or at this speed. Yet 50 years after first being identified parental alienation is still debated. Like saying law enforcement should still be working with equipment 50 years earlier; no radio’s, vests, tasers or computers. Unimaginable. Yet here we sit with parental alienation.

The fall out on parental alienation is breaking the down our courts. Judges unable to move one direction or another are heaping one resource after another on families as they seek to understand family dynamics and do what they can from the bench with even more damage to these cases. The costs for many of these programs is literally decimating American families emotionally and financially on top of the damage done to children. And not just in the United States. It is being replicated in nearly all developed countries of the world.

Pushed to the edge a growing number of parents are seeking the ultimate act of retribution  and revenge against the other escalating socially unaccepted behavior and the violent crime at an alarming rate. Leaving in its wake a broken social infrastructure whose origins can be  traced back in many cases to custody and parental alienation. The severity of the actions based on mild, moderate or severe alienation.

This correspondence is just one of many being drafted by colleagues around the globe for professional review by the APA and other organizations here in the United States and abroad.

As I review your three initiatives for the APA outlining advance integrated primary care nationally, team functioning; health equity; new payment models; interprofessional education; research, evaluation; and policies to sustain integrated primary care it would seem that parental alienation would fit into these goals well. I again urge the APA to be a leader on this issue and recognize parental alienation.

I am available for further comment but would also refer you to Dr. Steven Miller and Dr. Amy Baker both far more eloquent and capable than myself for discussion on the issues albeit less emotional. I am afraid that too many years as a law enforcement officer dealing with the carnage of divorce, custody and parental alienation have caused me to be overly impassioned ~ certainly not neutral on this very important issue.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

Sincerely,

 

Catherine MacWillie

CEO, Custody Calculations

P.O. Box 3447

San Dimas, California 91773

702-675-5120

Catherine@CustodyCalculations.com

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Catherine MacWillie is the CEO of Custody Calculations and a Child Custody and Divorce Coach. She has 32 years experience dealing with Family Law. 24 years as a law enforcement officer responding to radio calls dealing with divorce and custody issues and a first responder to child abuse investigations in addition to other related assignments. She spent ten years researching Family Law and divorce including cause, effect, impact, solutions to the many issues that arise during divorce and custody proceedings. The last eight years as a Coach.

She is the past president of Stop Parental Alienation of Children. A prior board member of Parental Alienation Awareness Organization. An advisory board member of International Support Network of Alienated Families. A member of Parental Alienation Study Group. A member of the 2014 Parental Alienation Colloquium, Long Beach, California. A member of the 2016 Parental Alienation Think Tank, Beverly Hills, California.

In 2017 her research on divorce, crime and parental alienation will be presented in Prague, Czechoslovakia at the International Academy of Law and Mental Health (IALMH) a prestigious event with participants coming from around the globe to present.

For additional information go to CustodyCalculations.com or visit us on social media, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest,YouTube, Vimeo, or call 702-675-5120.

 

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Family Law Reform Discussion ~ Judge vs Juries. Catch The Interview July 27, 2016 7:00 pm PST/10:00 pm EST

Catch the interview and hear what retired Law Enforcement Officer and Divorce Coach, Catherine MacWillie, says on Family Law reform using juries and not judges to decide divorce and custody issues. What would it take to put juries in courtrooms or should we? What are the issues? Catch this important reform discussion on Talk Radio Experts with Attorney Vincent Davis. July 27, 2016, 7:00 PST/10:00 PM EST. Call 646-668-8791. No registration required. Use the time to listen to past shows dealing with CPS and Family Law. http://talkradioexperts.com/

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Catherine MacWillie is the CEO of Custody Calculations and a Child Custody and Divorce Coach. She has 32 years experience dealing with Family Law. 24 years as a law enforcement officer responding to radio calls dealing with divorce and custody issues and a first responder to child abuse investigations in addition to other related assignments. She spent ten years researching Family Law and divorce including cause, effect, impact, solutions to the many issues that arise during divorce and custody proceedings. The last eight years as a Coach.

She is the past president of Stop Parental Alienation of Children. A prior board member of Parental Alienation Awareness Organization. An advisory board member of International Support Network of Alienated Families. A member of Parental Alienation Study Group. A member of the 2014 Parental Alienation Colloquium, Long Beach, California. A member of the 2016 Parental Alienation Think Tank, Beverly Hills, California.

In 2017 her research on divorce, crime and parental alienation will be presented in Prague, Czechoslovakia at the International Academy of Law and Mental Health (IALMH) a prestigious event with participants coming from around the globe to present.

For additional information go to CustodyCalculations.com or visit us on social media, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest,YouTube, Vimeo, or call 702-675-5120.

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TO ALL THE MOTHERS THAT WILL NOT SEE THEIR CHILDREN THIS MOTHER’S DAY . . .

HERE IS A LIST OF MY RECENT POSTINGS ON MY TWITTER ACCOUNT, APRIL 30, 2016, CUSTODYCALCULATIONS/CEOMACWILLIE

TO ALL THE #MOTHERS THAT WILL NOT SEE THEIR CHILDREN THIS MOTHER’S DAY REGARDLESS OF COURT ORDER….. I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS

MOTHER’S DAY AROUND THE CORNER. POLICE RADIO CALLS WILL CARRY THE DAY AS SOME MOTHERS WILL NEVER SEE CHILDREN.

MOTHERS/FATHERS CAN’T AFFORD TO GO TO COURT EVERY TIME THEY ARE DENIED CUSTODY ON THEIR HOLIDAY! SHAME ON COURTS

IMAGE CRIMINAL COURTS REQUIRED VICT’S TO PAY FEES ENFORCE LAW WHEN ROBBED, RAPED, BURGLARY. TALK ABOUT LAWLESSNESS. OH WAIT FAMILY LAW IS ALREADY LAWLESS!

MOTHERS DAY BITTER SWEET FOR PARENTS DEALING WITH CUSTODY ISSUES. WILL NEVER SEE CHILDREN.

FOR MANY CHILDREN MOTHER’S DAY ANOTHER DAY WILL NOT SPEND WITH MOTHER. LIKE FATHERS DAY WILL NOT SPEND WITH FATHER. SHAME ON SYSTEM

FOR SOME CHILDREN AND FAMILIES MOTHERS DAY WILL END HORRIBLY WRONG!

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Risk Factors Of International Abduction. Do You Know The Signs?/Twitter Postings

HERE IS A LIST OF MY RECENT POSTINGS ON MY TWITTER ACCOUNT, JULY 23, 2016, CUSTODYCALCULATIONS/CEOMACWILLIE

Are you concerned that you children could be abducted internationally and you may never see them again? Divorce Coach.

Has  your  child  been  taken  out  of  state  and  you can’t locate them? Not sure what to do?

Have you been threatened with I am going to take the kids and you will never see them again! .

Divorces are always messy, when you have two cultures opposite sides of the world w/different rules/understandings; its made all the worse

What if you make agreement to unblock child’s passport in return for something/then the other side doesn’t deliver. What then? We know.

What did your attorney do when the other side didn’t keep their end of deal/you released child’s passport? We can help attorney/you w/issues

Abducted child from Japan returned to left behind parent in US. First case in US history, child returned from Japan.

Child returned to US after abduction to Japan doing well. Good resources/good attorneys/good coordination. Do you have a good team?

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Never Lose Custody Because They Say You are Not Suitable to Co-Parent!!

Only today another parent posted on social media that they lost custody because they were told that they were not suitable to co-parent with the other parent. A story repeated everyday in this country all too often.

There is a myth that co-parenting is the only option for families of divorce. There have been so many bad decisions and devastation caused by this one issue when there is absolutely an alternative.

Never lose custody to this argument again. Present an alternative to co-parenting that is specifically geared to facilitate better parenting ~ separate from the other parent where children are the real benefactors. Dealing with all levels of divorce amicable to hostile known as parallel parenting.

Recently, I provided an interview on parallel parenting with attorney Vincent W. Davis on his show Talk Radio Experts. A long time attorney in Family and CPS law the show was “Why Co-Parenting May Not Be The Right Choice for Your Family.” Attorney Davis said that even with all of his experience he had never heard of parallel parenting and immediately saw the benefits for his clients and their children.

After the interview one of the listeners posted on the show comments “I went from wanting to have a breakdown to being happy and enjoying life again with my child just by enforcing some parallel parenting.”

No matter where you are in the process you do not need a court order to begin using parallel parenting. You can implement parallel parenting on your own. To hear the interview on parallel parenting with attorney Vincent W. Davis go to this link http://www.blogtalkradio.com/talkradioexperts/2016/06/23/divorce-family-law-talk-radio-show

To pre-order your copy of “Parallel Parenting and Why Co-Parenting May Not Be the Right Choice for Your Family” go to our website Custody Calculations.com. Navigate to store on the menu button and go to the drop down on E/Magazines.

Here are just a few of the chapters in our magazine; Does Parallel Parenting Plans Affect Joint Physical Custody? The Higher The Conflict Level, The Greater The Structure, Five Reasons One Parent Choose Parallel Parenting Over Co-Parenting and More. Worried that you won’t be able to do this on your own, overwhelmed, and fearful of he learning curve, one on one coaching is also available.

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Catherine MacWillie is the CEO of Custody Calculations and a Child Custody and Divorce Coach. She has 32 years experience dealing with Family Law. 24 years as a law enforcement officer responding to radio calls dealing with divorce and custody issues and a first responder to child abuse investigations in addition to other related assignments. She spent ten years researching Family Law and divorce including cause, effect, impact, solutions to the many issues that arise during divorce and custody proceedings. The last eight years as a Coach.

She is the past president of Stop Parental Alienation of Children. A prior board member of Parental Alienation Awareness Organization. An advisory board member of International Support Network of Alienated Families. A member of Parental Alienation Study Group. A member of the 2014 Parental Alienation Colloquium, Long Beach, California. A member of the 2016 Parental Alienation Think Tank, Beverly Hills, California.

In 2017 her research on divorce, crime and parental alienation will be presented in Prague, Czechoslovakia at the International Academy of Law and Mental Health (IALMH) a prestigious event with participants coming from around the globe to present.

For additional information go to CustodyCalculations.com or visit us on social media, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest,YouTube, Vimeo, or call 702-675-5120.

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Help My Monitor is Being Threatened by the Alienator!

Going to pass on a tip I received from Joan Kloth-Zanard from Pas Intervention. If you are involved in a heavily disputed custody case involving false child abuse allegations, parental alienation, emotional and legal abuse where the alienator has the upper hand you are likely going to be ordered to undergo supervised visitation. At some point if not several times during your case.

If the other parent has already threatened other involved parties around you it is likely they will threaten the monitor overseeing your visitations as well. Especially if it becomes clear the monitor can present evidence to the court of a loving relationship between you and the children. And obstruction, blocking and inappropriate behavior on the part of the alienator, the monitor will likely be threatened.

In fact monitors get threatened all of the time. Although this should be handled immediately by having the monitor contact the judge and disclosing the information, many monitors choose to back down from their prior positions of support of the targeted parent. It is that or face the thousands of dollars in fees to fight off false allegations themselves, license and career etc. Even if they prevail their reputation could still be damaged.

So, in protection of the monitor and the children consider having a third party present, unobserved and unknown to all ~ but yourself. An experienced private detective who has testified in court, such as a retired law enforcement officer would be your best. This as opposed to a friend or family member who would be “tainted” in the eyes of the court.

The private detective will also have the required equipment needed for this type of situation as well. If the alienator remains present for your visitation hiding behind trees, bushes and structures, you want photographs of that. If the alienator is calling the children on their cell phone talking to them during your visitations you want photographs of that too. If the alienator makes inappropriate statements to the children dropping off or picking up the children within earshot of the private detective you want that documented to present to the courts so they can make a more appropriate ruling in your custody.

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Catherine MacWillie is the CEO of Custody Calculations and a Child Custody and Divorce Coach. She has 32 years experience dealing with Family Law. 24 years as a law enforcement officer responding to radio calls dealing with divorce and custody issues and a first responder to child abuse investigations in addition to other related assignments. She spent ten years researching Family Law and divorce including cause, effect, impact, solutions to the many issues that arise during divorce and custody proceedings. The last eight years as a Coach.

She is the past president of Stop Parental Alienation of Children. A prior board member of Parental Alienation Awareness Organization. An advisory board member of International Support Network of Alienated Families. A member of Parental Alienation Study Group. A member of the 2014 Parental Alienation Colloquium, Long Beach, California, 2016. A member of the Parental Alienation Think Tank, Beverly Hills, California.

In 2017 her research on divorce, crime and parental alienation will be presented in Prague, Czechoslovakia will be presented at the International Academy of Law and Mental Health (IALMH) a prestigious event with participants coming from around the globe to present.

For additional information go to CustodyCalculations.com or visit us on social media, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest,YouTube, Vimeo, or call 702-675-5120.